Welcome to our Marriage War and Peace blog for September!

If your marriage feels like a battleground and your home a minefield, you’re not alone. Many of us have been there, and it's not a sign of brokenness. When life feels uncertain, sacred rituals can be your quiet anchor.

Rituals aren’t just routines with fancy names. They’re small, intentional acts that say, I matter. My peace matters. Whether you’re sipping coffee in silence before anyone wakes up or lighting a candle at the end of a hard day, these moments create space to breathe, reflect, and reconnect with yourself.

This month, we’re focusing on finding stability through routine. 

But let's be clear, routine is not the same as ritual. Routine is about doing things in a certain order, while ritual is about infusing those actions with meaning and intention. Because when you’re feeling emotionally spent, even the smallest ritual can become a lifeline.

In this month’s article, we’ll focus on:

• Rewinding My Day and Reclaiming My Peace

• 6 sacred Rituals for the Battle-Weary Wife

• The Book of Awakening

Rewinding My Day and Reclaiming My Peace

Before I learned the power of sacred rituals, I was running on empty—and I didn’t even know it.

When I was a battle-weary wife, I didn’t realize I was outsourcing my self-care—placing my emotional needs on my husband and expecting him to fulfill them. When that didn’t happen, I over-functioned, over-accommodated, and stayed busy so I wouldn’t have to face what was going on inside.

If something upset me, I didn’t stop to process it. I just worked harder and pushed through. Reflection and self-awareness? There was no room for either. At one point, I couldn’t even name my feelings—I had to Google “list of emotions” just to learn the words for what I was experiencing.

Then I discovered a simple ritual that changed everything—Rewinding My Day.

In bed at night, I would mentally walk backward through my day, moment by moment. No judgment—just noticing. Safe under the covers, I allowed feelings to surface. Sometimes they were so intense I cried myself to sleep. 

Over time, I began to see patterns in my relationships, experience “aha” moments, and reclaim parts of myself I’d lost. That’s the power of a sacred ritual—it grounds you, helps you release what isn’t yours, and renews you for tomorrow. 

I love this ritual so much I create a Rewarding My Day instruction sheet—click here to download it. And if you’re ready for more, you may find that pairing it with one of the six rituals below is the perfect combination for stability and peace.


6 Sacred Rituals for the Battle-Weary Wife

These sacred rituals help you create a ‘me time’ routine that gently weaves small,
soul-nourishing moments into your day. Think of them as quiet touchpoints that keep you grounded, even when the rest of life feels unsteady.

1. Morning Mindfulness Moment

Wake up 10 minutes before the rest of the house. Make your favorite drink and sit in stillness—no phone, no to-do list. Just breathe and be with yourself.

2. Candle-Lighting Intention

Light a candle at the same time each day (morning or evening). As you do, speak a simple intention like, “I choose peace today,” or “I am held, even when things feel hard.”

3. Gratitude in Threes

Every evening, write down three things you’re grateful for—big or small. This practice gently shifts your nervous system from a state of survival to one of sufficiency.

4. Gentle Movement or Stretching

Create a five-minute movement ritual, such as stretching in bed, slow yoga, or even a morning walk. Gentle movement isn’t about fitness. It’s about being present with your body.

5. The Sacred Shower (my favorite!)

Treat your evening shower as a cleansing ritual. As the water runs, imagine it washing away the energy of the day. Visualize yourself stepping out renewed and grounded.

6. Weekly Check with Yourself

Once a week, journal on this question: What do I need to feel safe, seen, and supported this week? Let your answers guide your boundaries, asks, or choices.

Remember, the magic isn’t in doing these rituals perfectly—it’s in showing up for yourself consistently. Start with one practice that speaks to you, then add more as they feel natural. Over time, these sacred touchstones can help you feel calmer, clearer, and more connected to yourself and to those you love.

Helpful Resource

The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have by Mark Nepo

This soulful daily reader offers bite-sized reflections to anchor your day in meaning. It's ideal for the battle-weary wife who’s craving wisdom, stability, and a sense of spiritual connection—no matter the hardships.

Share Your Insights

I’d love to hear from you! Which of these rituals speaks to you the most? Do you already have a routine that helps you feel grounded? Share your thoughts, I’d love to hear from you. Please email [email protected].

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